40 and Single? Here’s 10 Tips to Finding Love After 40

But for every happy ending, I have many more stories of delusional expectations and rejection. Sofi Papamarko Updated May 21, I met Lana on a tour bus in Paris and we became instant pals. Lana was cute, whip-smart and sarcastic as hell. The more I talked to her, the more she reminded me of someone I knew.

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At the age of 42, owing to two long relationships that tailgated each other, I found myself single for the first time since I was something. In my 20s, I thought dating was hard: One had to find a mate who was attractive, single and not just recently single but single long enough to not still be in love with their ex-lover. They had to be relatively drug-free, “relative” being the operative word, since somethings are allowed to dabble and still be considered a good catch. When I went out, the bars were filled with singles around my age.

It was a something smorgasbord. Sure, there were a few ancient somethings who wedged themselves against the wall and stared like hungry wolves, but they were just sad. When I found my year-old self nursing a Cosmopolitan on a bar stool in the West Village, I knew where that hunger came from. Hello, year-olds actually need to eat something besides pretzels! As a something babe, I now understand that dating was easy in my 20s. Forty-somethings have to find someone who not only meets all the something requirements but is not all the things that decades of ex-lovers were.

My list started with: They must not have a fear of intimacy, be a liar, be a cheater, be a drunk, be boring, be broke, be un-therapized, be selfish in bed, have bad breath, hate their job, wear dirty socks to bed — my list went on for another two pages. At the bars, I had the pleasure of watching as a slew of women I was old enough to have birthed paraded before me.

Gay bars are just as bad as the straight ones.